Love Dare Day 3 and the Be My Valentine Marriage Challenge

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Day 3 (Feb 3) "Love is not selfish" Rom. 12:10


One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive a reward. If you do even a good thing to deceitfully manipulate your husband, you are still being selfish. The bottom line is that you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself.
And the bottom line can be tough to swallow sometimes BUT it is one of the most rewarding things to make decisions out of love for your family. It has taken a long time to adjust from just doing things that will please me to doing things that will please/benefit my entire family and/or marriage. It has meant keeping my mouth shut when I so greatly want to shout, giving up items that I never thought that I could do without, and often not having any time left over for just "Me." I wouldn't change it for anything in the world!

If you blush easy or do not want to read about intimacy in marriage......PLEASE stop reading here!

This week Courtney at Women Living Well issued this Marriage challenge.

"The more womanly you are, the more manly your husband will want to be." Elizabeth Elliot


There is something about the sparkle in our eye, the smile that says I adore you, the curves of our body, the sweet smell of our perfume, the way we move in the dark...that draws a man to a woman.

Proverbs 30:18,19 says"There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand; the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a maiden."

For men the physical need for intimacy is more than just physical - it is emotional. Just as we long to remain desirable to our husband's, our husband's long to know that they are still desirable to us. Their big ol' egos might not let them admit it - but it's there.

Within our God given femininity, we have the power to make our men feel stronger, more capable, more confident and loved in all areas - simply by responding to his initiatives with desire.

So this week's challenge is:
Pursue intimacy and place the intimate needs of your spouse above your own. Give him a foot or back massage, shower together, be creative!

Seek to "kiss him like you mean it" every single day this week! Solomon 5:16 says "His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely." Look at your husband through the eyes of his fiance...do you remember those butterflies and your longing for him. Renew that passion.

Paula Rinehart says that for many men, "S*x is like a silent cheer."

Our men feel stronger, more capable, and built up when we respond to their advances with a smile.
(Which means that a lot of chores won't be getting done in our house!)
"Be available, agreeable and interested.(~Linda Dillow, Intimate Issues)

"When you touch your husband's deepest need something good almost always happens!"~ Dr. Emerson Eggerich

So I challenge you today to not just show your husband you love him but show him that you LIKE him!