There is the need to be with each other as much as possible coupled with the healthy distancing of yourself. (It sounds weird but makes your good bye a slight bit easier.)
There's wishing D-day would just get here (so you don't prolong the pain any longer and you can get the countdown for homecoming started) and in the same breath wishing it would never get here.
There is the readying of home, finances, kids, trips, power of attorneies, emergency contact forms, etc
There are multiple conversations with kids on what daddy will be doing and where daddy will be at. Oh and what will happen if daddy doesn't come home....
It is a stressful time. This deployment for us also has training away from home right before deployment. It's hard for an adult to deal with let alone children to understand the coming and going.
Well we made it through the first week of training....minus Murphy's law for deployed spouses. Something is bound to go insanely wrong because you don't have your other half there to help you deal with it.
Let's see this week we have......
1. Had ants escape while we were trying to put them in their ant farm.
2. Had ants escape during feeding time.
3. Had a bird stuck in the garage and fly at my head (y'all know how I feel about birds!!)
4. Had a coyote get into the trash bag on our back porch in our fenced in backyard during daytime hours
(Ants, birds, and coyotes oh my!!)
5. Had my mother in law have a car accident and miss her flight out for a visit
6. Had our sweet, little Kymber lock herself in the running car at the bus stop....thereby causing her very large and in pain mommy to run 1/2 mile to the house to get spare keys and 1/2 mile back to get her out
7. And of course multiple fights (a day) between siblings coupled with weeping children.
I know it doesn't seem like a lot but when you are on the emotional roller coaster of this military lifestyle, it takes a toll.
We also have been trying to take a picture a day for Ben so he can see our fun moments too!