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Monday, October 4, 2010

Marriage Monday & Making your home a haven

Today is Marriage Monday over at Now I didn't copy the entire blog post today but I came close to it because Julie always makes so much sense to me. I hope that it brings you as much to ponder as it did to me.

I guess it's the way God knit me together, but "reunioning" plunges me into deep thought ... and the capacity to consume large quantities of coffee. Since it's Marriage Monday, I'll share one thought that bumped around in my head this weekend. I couldn't help but ask myself, "Have I done my husband good?" Life is so much about choices. We both could've ended up in other relationships, lived other lives. But we chose to do life together, and at markers like 20 reunions, it's good to ask, "Have I done him good?" O, I hope so!

I do tell you that I am so thankful every day that I ended up with Ben and not any other relationship. He pushes me to grow (even if it is painful at the time) and change. He is a good, godly husband and provider. And I pray that I am "doing him good."
But you don't have to wait for a 20 year reunion to ponder these things. In fact, I think it serves us well if consider questions like these early and often:
•Who is my husband, because of "me in his life"?

•How have we changed?

•What has he gained because of me?

•What have we done together?
Is his _____ better? Fill in the blank with words like: faith, reputation, character, health, confidence, experience, endurance. Have I lifted him up to help him be the "best him" he can be?
I sincerely hope that I have lifted him up to be the "best him."
Fortunately, I know I'm NOT responsible for all my husband is. He has the Holy Spirit for that! But I'm that "helper suitable for him," (Genesis 2:18) that one who "brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life" (Proverbs 31:12). That's quite a calling, friends! Part of my mission in life as a wife is to "do him good" all of my life. That's what Marriage Mondays is all about.

Other than his relationship with God, a wife can be the best thing that ever happened to a man! When I've let my flesh rule me, instead of God's Spirit, I can be relieved to know God's grace covers my mistakes. God wants us to keep growing as a wife even more than we or our husband do. Besides that, there's always another reunion to come, and that means another day to ponder ... "Have I done my hubby good?"

Are You Distracted and Distant or Making Your Home a Haven?

It is week 1 of the Making Your Home a Haven Fall Challenge. Here is this week's challenge: Go buy an extra large candle and light a candle everyday in your home. I will be starting mine in the morning! But you can start yours at dinner time. Do what makes sense for your family. I will be placing mine in the kitchen - the main hub of my home. Each time the candle catches your eye, say a prayer for peace in your home.

This is just a snippet of the whole article. Go visit Courtnet at for more!
May your husbands and families be blessed by you this week.


Julie@comehaveapeace said...

Girl, I know you're doing your husband good! When I come and visit, I can see that you're his #1 fan, and any man is blessed by that. Happy "haven making" this week, and thanks for sharing your thoughts about doing your man good.

Lands Family Led by the Lord said...

A big thanks to your husband.. My son in law is an officer in the Marines. Will take his first tour of duty in a couple of months.
Thanks for the sacrifice we know it we understand what it takes. May God bless your sweet family.

I have posted pictures on my blog of Thomas and Amy...

Many Blessings,

Sherry @ Lamp Unto My Feet said...

Great to meet you! I'm also a military spouse. :)
I'm so excited about this challenge. :)

Great to meet you!

Kim said...

Neat linkies! Have a great week!

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