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Marriage advice
No it is not coming from me! I only wish that I had this much insight. I found a blog yesterday at http://lysaterkeurst.com/ It is beautiful! Her title says it all "Leading Women in the Adventure of Faith." I am posting a clip from her post yesterday that I found very comforting and wanted to share. Happy Reading!
I shared with my friend that when I was single I thought marriage was all about finding the right partner. I thought if you find “the one,” you’ll be happy, secure, and fulfilled. I do think it’s good to have a list of standards that you look for in a spouse. However, it can never be with the expectation that if you find that special someone, he’ll right all your wrongs and fill up all your insecurities. The problem with this thinking is the pressure it will eventually put on your spouse.
To expect another person to make you feel happy, secure, and fulfilled will leave you disappointed at best and disillusioned at worst. Even a great husband makes a very poor God.
Only God can settle those deep heart-needs. A man can never do this. If a husband could meet every need his wife had, we’d have no need for God. Therefore, instead of just focusing on finding the right partner, let God work on your heart to help you become the right partner.
Getting married doesn’t instantly make you selfless… it makes you realize how very selfish you can be at times.
Getting married doesn’t make you feel loved… it makes you realize love is more of a decision you make than a feeling you feel.
Getting married doesn’t take away loneliness… it makes you realize true companionship comes not when you demand it but rather when you give it to another person.
So, what does marriage give? A beautiful chance to…
…make the choice to love.
…laugh whether or not the jokes are funny.
…fold his collar over his tie every morning.
…pretend like you don’t need flowers, but delight when he buys them anyway.
…cheer him on through both failures and successes.
…tell him he’s a great man everyday.
…thank God for the privilege of being his wife.
To expect another person to make you feel happy, secure, and fulfilled will leave you disappointed at best and disillusioned at worst. Even a great husband makes a very poor God.
Only God can settle those deep heart-needs. A man can never do this. If a husband could meet every need his wife had, we’d have no need for God. Therefore, instead of just focusing on finding the right partner, let God work on your heart to help you become the right partner.
Getting married doesn’t instantly make you selfless… it makes you realize how very selfish you can be at times.
Getting married doesn’t make you feel loved… it makes you realize love is more of a decision you make than a feeling you feel.
Getting married doesn’t take away loneliness… it makes you realize true companionship comes not when you demand it but rather when you give it to another person.
So, what does marriage give? A beautiful chance to…
…make the choice to love.
…laugh whether or not the jokes are funny.
…fold his collar over his tie every morning.
…pretend like you don’t need flowers, but delight when he buys them anyway.
…cheer him on through both failures and successes.
…tell him he’s a great man everyday.
…thank God for the privilege of being his wife.
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